Gentle Discipline

Gentle Discipline

This morning I am curious about gentle discipline.

I know that usually when we think about discipline, it comes with ideas of being rigid in the pursuit of something. Being unbending. Unyielding. Tough on ourselves to serve an outcome.

What if, in the pursuit of the desired outcome, we could be gentle in our discipline?
What if, we could stay with the vision of what we want, and, be gentle?

I have noticed that when I am harsh with myself, the product of that harshness has an edge to it.
This is not something I prefer.

When I am gentle and coax myself, nurture myself through to achieve what needs to happen, it gets done.
It also comes with love and pride and the product of it has joy and satisfaction surrounding it.

Recently I bought a beautiful pottery bowl – handmade by an Australian.
It is a thing of beauty.
Every time I see it, I smile – yes I believe beauty is important – for our spirit and for our soul to elevate our existence out of the merely mundane.
I am certain that she absolutely loves throwing pots on a wheel.
It emanates from that bowl.
Side by side, her bowl next to the mass-produced one I bought in a supermarket, it is patently clear she was feeling love and care and her spirit was engaged when she made her bowl.
It also feels very good to be supporting a local person producing beautiful things.

In our music practise, it is inevitable that there will be times that we simply don’t feel like it.
It is a given.
In the early stages of becoming a musician, practise needs to be consistent and frequent to build the skill – muscle memory and brain connections and the multiple new skills involved.

How can we be gentle with ourselves in the pursuit of our new skill?
How can we produce our thing of beauty and it be embued with love and care and spirit?
How can it be a routine that not only builds our skill but sustains and nourishes and nurtures us?
This is the feeling I have from Tina’s beautiful bowl.

Pamela Jordan is a Professional Piano Teacher Mentor in Seaforth, Northern Beaches, Sydney, Australia.
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Discipline and Creativity

Discipline is the fuel of achievement.
Creativity sparks the flame
Passion fans the fire
Discipline keeps it going for as long as it takes.
Disciplining yourself can be tedious,
annoying, inconvenient
and even agonising.
And yet, the results brought about by self-discipline
cannot be reached in any other way.
Discipline puts your most incredible dreams within reach.
With self-discipline, you can make the best of your possibilities come to life.
How do you bring yourself to that level of discipline?
You get there by knowing what you absolutely must do,
knowing that through self-discipline
you can make it happen.
What do you know in your heart,
you are truly meant to accomplish?
When you experience life as a mission,
the discipline you need will be there.
Discipline and focus applied consistently over time,
can take you to truly amazing places.
Where is it you are uniquely suited to go?
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Music: Receiving Praise V Rejection

Receiving Praise v Rejection
So you would love to play the piano, and you are aware that being ridiculed or criticised in some way is stopping you?
Perhaps you were playing, at any level, and somehow the comments of other people, rattled you and you now don’t play?

This whole thing about expressing ourselves, the truth of who we are, and playing a musical instrument potentially brings comments from other people.

Do you feel that it’s alright only if people make positive comments? Is it bad if people ridicule you, or criticise you, or reject you?

What if I said that the way to move forward with strength, is to learn to be neutral about other people’s comments?

That is, learn to not react to other people’s opinions of your self-expression. It would be understandable to seek praise and feel warm and fussy from adulation or appreciation.
Where I have come to in my journey of navigating these things, is to stay neutral. Why?

At the end of the day, in the privacy of my own mind and heart, I know where I am at in my expression. I know the truth. I know what kind of performance I gave. I know what my inner ‘set point’ is.

If I allow praise or rejection or expectations of other people to shift that set point, I am lost to myself.
The path I am on becomes no longer my own.

Therefore, the healthy response to praise or rejection is…. “thank you”.
Simple as that.
And then we return to our own path.

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