LIFESKILLS: Go Where The Energy Is

So what does “go where the energy is” mean?
My take on it is, whatever floats your boat, or energizes you, or excites you, or makes you feel deeply has a great message for you.
It is a message from your soul telling you that this is important and to take notice.
Why would someone take notice of that?
We all have an inner guidance system called feelings.
Our feelings indicate whether we are safe or not, happy or not, on the right track or not and many others.
When we acknowledge how we are feeling and learn to decipher what the message is for our wellbeing, we are on our way to living a much richer more fulfilling life.

It may feel easier or seem to be more effective to shut down our feelings and ignore them.
In some situations this may be the smart option, as in when our safety in the moment is threatened. I am not taking about this though.

What I am talking about is how we make those decisions about whether to go this way or that way in our life path choices.
Do I get a day job while I continue to work on my art?
What kind of day job do I go for?
Can I go for what I would love to do?
Do I have to continue in the job I hate?

Ultimately the answer to those questions in inside of you.
Your feelings are the stay or go barometer.
If we can continually be aware of and witness our internal guidance system (our feelings) over time we develop a much stronger relationship with ourselves.
We develop trust in ourselves when we heed our feelings and “go where the energy is”.

It is my experience that despite what society or my head might be telling me to do, my feelings and energy or not for a choice might be telling me something else. I always take the time to reconcile them.

In the beginning of exploring “go where the energy is”, I recall starting very simply with decisions that weren’t all that important. I was testing the idea. Then over time as I noticed the results I was having, more and more I applied it to bigger decisions. The result has been a more and more fulfilling life experience.

People often say to me “when you change to talking about your work, you light up like a Christmas tree!”  I am delighted to say this is the outcome of choosing to go where the energy is, over many years.

Wishing you a fulfilling life,
Pamela

LIFESKILLS: The Power of Five Minutes

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Waiting for.
Waiting for some.
Waiting for someone.
Waiting for someone for.
Waiting for someone for five.
Waiting for someone for five minutes.

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If you have ever had to wait in the queue at the Bank or Post Office or Supermarket – I’m guessing that covers just about everyone – you will have experienced how interminable time can feel.  We are feeling the weight of time ticking away.

I don’t know about you, but there are plenty of times when I have decided I don’t have time to do something.
The truth is most likely the opposite.
That is, if I have defined ahead of time exactly what I am going to do in the time I have, it is sometimes amazing what I have finished.

This is the key for me. Knowing exactly what I am going to do takes out any need to think about it, or consider choices or make decisions. These things take up precious time. If I can simply just do the thing, what a relief.

Then of course I have the satisfaction of having something done.
Delicious.

 

LIFESKILLS: Understanding priorities

Learning a worthwhile skill with potentially life-long benefits (like playing a musical instrument) can take a lot of effort and be a kind of marathon.

How do we actually achieve it?
Given we all have 24 hours in every day and 365 days in every year, how do we decide what to do in that time to take us to our dream?

Some of us don’t decide and perhaps by default prefer to allow life to happen around us and float along.
Whether we do or don’t is everyone’s choice.

What if though, we do decide and purposefully channel ourselves in that direction?

What if we decide to grab life by the collar and declare what we want to experience?
What if we set the intention to fully live, and have what we dream of?

The impact on our quality of life could be quite dramatic.
And, the impact on our children?

There is a school of thought that says children learn what they live.
This makes a lot of sense to me.
If a child lives in a household with parents who are making choices for their lives, setting goals and achieving them, and allowing them to witness the process and harvest of that, what impact might it have on their future?

So now, back to those pesky only 24 hours in every day.
Many of us want to cram far too much into our lives.
I am certainly guilty of that.

The fact is we can’t do everything all at once, no matter how much we might want to.
We have to learn to prioritise.

Make choices.
Declare to myself that I want this more than that.
Allow some things to go undone, untried, untested.
Say no to others and to myself when a possibility presents itself that is not aligned with how I want to experience my life and future.
Accept this offer and reject that offer. Not always easy.
When I do this, although it can be excruciating at the time, the rewards that come from it can be beautiful and bountiful!

Self-care
Self-esteem
self-knowledge
self-understanding
self-worth
self-respect
self-management
development of my character
trust in myself

For kids to navigate the ‘marathon’ they need to learn how to prioritise and stay on track.
They will be distracted by many many things along the way, just like us.
It takes time and practise to learn, and it takes a lot of effort by parents.
And it is well worth the effort.

Motivation for the child comes through witnessing the rewards gained by their parents and friends, then having the internal experience of “I WANT THAT”. Then they will be on board with the effort. Once they experience the self-respect that comes with achieving what they want (begin with smaller easier things to achieve) they will become more and more hooked on the process. It will make their life much more exciting ultimately. At least that has been my experience.

Yes some people have levels of passion and purpose and directness of vision that they are able to do this without training it seems. Other people need to work on it.

Which kind are you? Is your child the same?
How might your child be taught to prioritise appropriate to their character and abilities?

I wonder what the best version of you and your child might be?
Fascinating….

If there is something substantial to achieve to make your life come alive, then mastering the art of priority becomes your vital daily companion.